An Un-Successful story

Successful People

The world is filled with stories of how most of the successful people were ordinary employees once and how they took the plunge into entrepreneurship! Just google this up and you will find a long list of names.

Looks like this is the only way to go if one has to be successfull in life.

You won’t find a long list of people described as ‘successful’ who have given up their self-employed status and gone back to working for someone else. For many, this is considered as a downward career graph as there are a lot of factors involved when someone takes such decisions.

The Unlearning Process

For those who know me, I had to take the decision to work for someone else as my self-employed career was headed nowhere. This takes a lot of toll physically and mentally to know that something which you are doing is absolutely not working out. But it takes a lot of courage to come out in the open and go back to working for someone else. The initial few months were extremely difficult as I had to adjust myself to take orders from someone else. Adjusting to taking orders was one of the most challenging aspects and I knew I had to take it all in my stride just to be in the game.

Succesful

Today it’s been almost 2 and half years since I have been working in a corporate setup and life has never looked so bright and positive.

My story won’t be considered as a success story as there are no millions of dollars involved. 

For me the failures and setbacks I have had, have been put to rest. Today I am in a position to write about it which is owed only to the unlimited success I have achieved in my own eyes.

Succesful

I leave you with a question to which only you can have an answer for – Do you still consider yourself Un-Successful? 

Making Peace with Your Past

 

It’s been more than a few years now since I have actually taken out time to retrospect on how my life has panned out.

Have you ever tried to look back at your past and then getting lost in the small stories which eventually shaped you up?

So last week I made conscious decision to look back at how my life has evolved over the years. The idea here was not to see how good or bad my life has been, but merely a way to say to myself that

Look, this is your life story and no one but you are responsible for it

A Past to Remember?

As I was reminiscing the yesteryear’s I realised that I  made few terrible choices and mistakes. But at the same time, there were many decisions of my life which turned out to be good. So is there a point to look back and keep wondering and thinking how we could have done something better to change the way we are living now?

My answer to this question is that there is no point in looking back and then regretting or cursing yourself on how your current life has shaped up. Rather when you are drawn to your past, encourage your mind to say that there is a reason why all this is in the past. You smile about it or even cry about it but never let what you did in your past affect the decision making in your present stage. When you look back and reflect on everything that has happened in our past, we learn to move forward It is only when you can ever make peace with your past.

You Make Peace with Your  Past by owning your Piece of the past. – Andy Stanley

Life- Ever wondered what’s next?

Has it happened with you?

This has happened to me multiple times when at the end of each day I feel like I have nothing to look forward to in life. I am putting up this question to everyone who reads this. Does this happen to you as well? In my case, I usually end up retracting into a slump and just cut off from the out side world to introspect.

By doing this I try to channelize my radical negative thoughts into a funnel and get rid of the doubts raised, over the next couple of days. At times these are not negative thoughts but thoughts which manage to instill self-doubts and fear of not knowing what’s coming next.

This is an extremely unnerving phase because it simply challenges what you have been doing till now.In my personal experience, I am a very confident person in whatever I do, in-spite of that if I can face such doubts one can only imagine the plight of the few unfortunate ones who lack confidence.Imagine this, a long day at work comes to end. The day was just about perfect and everything you planned for went according to how you had planned it. So the day is over and as you walk by you hear this –

Am I good enough ?

What If my best isn’t good enough?

The Concept of Trio in Life

The voice you hear is nothing but your inner self (soul)who is at a constant war with your outer self(self-made image). At such times your third entity that is your thinking mind is altogether on a different tangent because the mind is more often than not responsive only for superficial or materialistic rewards. That’s how our software is coded.

I am no subject matter expert on how minds or brains function! However, being a highly opinionated individual, I will give my perspective on how to deal with the three-tier tug of war. Let’s say that we all must learn to accept the time we are in. Time here refers to the different phases of our life. The office you work at, the gym you go to or may be the place you go for dinner with you family every weekend are few of the phases of your life.

Just as these phases constantly evolve and we invariably keep changing or moving ahead with the hope of better prospects. Similarly, the trio of a soul, self-made image, and the ever eager mind must evolve too. How do we do get the trio to evolve simultaneously at the same time? Well, it’s not going to happen simultaneously but one has to make each of the 3 elements evolve separately.

The only way to do this is by changing our mundane routine and do something different each week. For example, don’t take the same road to work every day. Try it and see it for yourself. Replace the cup of coffee instead with tea or any other beverage even if you don’t like it! Implementing few tweaks in our routine just helps us to reset the trio in their own independent manner. The self-doubt gets its own chance to re-discover itself and help us in clearing our thoughts.

After all, change is the only constant and that is how life is a transformation!

www.lifeistransformation.com

 

 

My many first days at the gym !

A transformation from Zero to Hero?

Gym Memberships are tricky.Let me not beat around the bush and come straight to the point I want to express here. Like the many of us, I too have taken gym memberships with zest and zeal to make a turn around in my life. This has happened with each one of us at some or the other point in our lives – We watch a film in which the hero undergoes a transformation from being zero to hero in less than 2 hours, we read about and see images of the sportsmen we idolize and we keep saying to ourselves,”I also want to look like this ”

 Mind Set at Gyms

A few years back, there was a concept that gyms are meant only for cardio and not weights! This was my initial impression as a new gym member.

There was this general mindset of the people at large, I too, unfortunately, was of this opinion.

At the age of 19, I enrolled at a local gym only for cardio. All I did was walked on that stupid machine for 35 odd minutes.Have sweat all over me and feel happy that I did something. This routine went on for 20 odd days and boom my body gave up. More than body giving up, it was the precarious situation of getting used to a set routine.

The Realization

That’s where it struck me that this is not my cup of tea. I will rather diet and manage the food intake than walk on the treadmill. This was the beginning of many firsts to come in years which followed. There is no exaggeration here. I must have literally joined 7 gyms and worked out for first 10 odd days till i turned 25.

I am 31, with a complete turn around in my mindset, and a new approach towards exercise and body building. Mind you this will give you a new approach to look at life as well. I thought of writing down these thoughts as every day I see older versions of mine at the gym who give up way to early. There’s lots more to come and I feel this is the right time for me to give back to the society and contribute. As little as I can towards making people believe in themselves.

http://www.instagram.com/sameer.karve