Making Peace with Your Past

 

It’s been more than a few years now since I have actually taken out time to retrospect on how my life has panned out.

Have you ever tried to look back at your past and then getting lost in the small stories which eventually shaped you up?

So last week I made conscious decision to look back at how my life has evolved over the years. The idea here was not to see how good or bad my life has been, but merely a way to say to myself that

Look, this is your life story and no one but you are responsible for it

A Past to Remember?

As I was reminiscing the yesteryear’s I realised that I  made few terrible choices and mistakes. But at the same time, there were many decisions of my life which turned out to be good. So is there a point to look back and keep wondering and thinking how we could have done something better to change the way we are living now?

My answer to this question is that there is no point in looking back and then regretting or cursing yourself on how your current life has shaped up. Rather when you are drawn to your past, encourage your mind to say that there is a reason why all this is in the past. You smile about it or even cry about it but never let what you did in your past affect the decision making in your present stage. When you look back and reflect on everything that has happened in our past, we learn to move forward It is only when you can ever make peace with your past.

You Make Peace with Your  Past by owning your Piece of the past. – Andy Stanley

On a Purpose

A life without any purpose is like hitting the arrow in the dark not knowing if you are hitting the target. How often do you feel tired and lost, bogged down by leading a mundane time driven and time controlled life? You wake up and do your things, reach respective offices or colleges or whatever your daily place of work is.

The Questions Asked

There have been times where I have hit the bed at night after a very long and tiring day wondering why I am doing what I am doing? Has anyone of you too faced this question where you are at a total loss of an idea and do not understand why you are doing what you are doing? I am sure the answer to this will be a unanimous one.

So here I was one fine day after completing my daily grind wondering what is that one thing which has kept me ticking in my long journey of body transformation? A few days passed and I still couldn’t come out with an answer as to why I am doing this. Let me be honest and tell you that I was going to give up mid way not wanting to further continue with it as the purpose of what I was doing had got a little hazy.

To begin to think with purpose, is to enter the ranks of those strong ones who only recognize failure as one of the pathways to attainment. – James Allen

Luckily for me, this was the time when I came across Simon Sinek, a world-famous TED talk speaker and a marketing consultant for various global corporates. To his credit is one such famous theory of – ‘The Golden Circle’ 

Realign with Purpose

This theory for me has been an eye-opener of sorts as it questions one’s core beliefs only to come out with a definitive purpose and a very optimistic way forward.

So wanting to apply Simon’s Golden Circle theory in my personal life, I asked these 3 simple questions to myself:-

Why am I doing this?

How am I doing this?

What is the outcome of it?

More often than not we are culprits of first trying to figure out the What and then the How and lastly the Why; this may not be the wrong thing to do but first, try to ask the question of ‘Why’ to yourself. Once you come out with an answer to why your all other aspects like ‘How’ and ‘What’ will to fall in place.

The day when I had a clear purpose of my daily routine in front of me, I started to enjoy it even more and never questioned myself again.

Purpose is not the Thing You Do,It lies within You